“A man shows up to his work and his life only as powerfully as he feels in the four walls of his home.”
Achievement used to be my North Star: in sports, academics, and then my career. At 25, I was working in New York for an energy investor, set to make $350k that year.
But I’d never felt less fulfilled. So I quit.
Instead, I bought a one-way ticket to Nicaragua and learned to surf. Ten days in, I met Abbie. We’ve since married, and our growing family now lives on Vancouver’s North Shore.
I’ve travelled to 36 countries (and counting)
I used to believe that success was everything, so I drove myself to achieve it. And I did… only to find what mattered most—presence, peace of mind, depth of connection—was still missing.
I’ve since realized I’d had it backwards. Our relationships, with others and with ourselves, are primary. Everything else is derivative.
So I started a business that lets me build the life and relationships I’ve always wanted, while supporting other men to do the same.
I realized I had it backwards. Our relationships, with others and with ourselves, are primary.
Published in the Financial Times — but my best work is love letters to my wife
Most men prioritize external achievement: chasing goals, building businesses, providing for their families. They do so in search of a feeling — and no matter what they accomplish, it remains out of reach.
Because what we're actually looking for is only available through connection with others. But being in relationships requires a different, even opposing set of abilities than what enabled our achievement: presence, attunement, vulnerability, sensitivity.
We were born with these abilities, and then as young boys we learned to suppress them. As men, reclaiming them is the work and the opportunity.
“God said, take what you want and pay for it.”
I love to run; played soccer and rugby for BC and Canada
I work with men in their 30s who are as committed to building a thriving inner life as they are to creating a prosperous business or career. Together, we get clear on what's most important to them and how they'd need to show up to create it. And then we take action.
Through our work, my clients' relationships deepen, their businesses grow, and they begin to truly enjoy the experience of their lives.
Within a few weeks of engaging Adam as a coach, I began to experience a profound transformation in my thinking — the kind of change one could reasonably expect to spend decades working toward… I am trusting and loving myself, and seeing with a clarity I’d never experienced before.
I have experienced transformational business growth by not really focusing on business growth… There is always a why behind what we say the reason is, and Adam helps me find that deeper version in myself… This is a coach who leads with love and allows us to start loving ourselves a bit more.
I entered our coaching relationship naively focused on work and success in the traditional sense… It quickly became clear that we were playing different games than I was used to — ones with higher stakes and different rules… I’ve come to see the world through a different lens, one often brighter and more vivid than I had previously thought was possible.
What sets Adam apart is accountability with continuity. Since working together, I’m clearer on what actually matters to me, and I’m investing there; work, health, relationships. The cost of inactivity is invisible until it isn’t. If you’re driven and in a period where you want to excel across all areas of life, Adam is the person to do it with.